Compassion

COMPASSION Have compassion for everyone you meet, even if they don’t want it. What appears bad manners, an ill temper or cynicism is a always a sign of things no ears have heard, no eyes have seen. You do not know what wars are going on down there where the spirit meets the bone. ~ Miller Williams   This is a poem I have used over the years in my books and articles, but one that is particularly needed right now. And Miller’s daughter, Lucinda, has just put out a double album titled “Where the Spirit Meets the Bone.” Since he is one of my top five favorite writers and she one of my top five favorite musicians, an article is in order. But what more can I say that he has not said in this piece? I think the key thoughts are: even if they don’t want it and […] MORE

Blog Tour

Blog Tour  July 15, 2014   A heart-friend, Elaine Mansfield, invited me to join a blog tour begun by Jean Raffa. Since I am a first time tour participant, Elaine was kind enough to lead me through the process. She writes with a strong sense of place and is connected deeply to her home and her civic involvement. Elaine is a life-long student of philosophy mythology, Jungian psychology and the spiritual traditions from many cultures and she used her knowledge as a women’s health counselor for 25 years. However, after the death of her husband in 2008, her studies turned to healthy grieving and creating a new and fertile life for herself. The result is that she now facilitates hospice support groups for women who have lost partners. She also writes for the Hospicare and Palliative Care of Tompkins County newsletter and website and helps others find the spiritual core […] MORE

Greatfulness

Gratitude Today, I remember to be grateful. What a small thing that seems to be, but in the midst of the mind and media chatter of my days, it’s something I have to be mindful of. A practice of gratitude is so easy and super rewarding. As I think of the first thing I am grateful for, a waterfall of people, places and happenings flow into my heart. It becomes difficult to slow them down and savor them as they arrive. Knowing that everything I experience is a gift certainly adds to the volume! For those of you who noticed my absence, I have been studying to become a certified HeartMath trainer. Last week, I received my certificate and license and I am now authorized to work with groups—corporate, non-profit and people in my own practice and workshops. Because I believe so heartfully in the work of HeartMath, it has […] MORE

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St. Valentine’s Day

Today is a day where we wish everyone love, with love usually being of the romantic kind. When I see this picture, it represents love to me. The tree that supports all kinds of love and life: family, friends, earth, the animals, birds and insects on the planet, and the planet herself. To have a day that represents love in all its guises is to ask us to remember what that feels like. Love is not many things, such as judgment, criticism, separation and superiority. Love is an open heart. A great exercise for this day is to think of someone or something that is not lovable, to your mind, and just open your heart to their heart. Lay judgment aside, and simply send love, wishing for that person or place to feel your love. Breathe into it. That’s all there is to it. You don’t have to get a response, […] MORE

Making Friends with Death

In September, I was asked to be a guest on a radio show hosted by the amazing Janet Conner. Both of us are great lovers of the work of John O’Donohue. She had decided that in the month of Samhain and Halloween (October) she would have a weekly guest who would talk about “Making Friends With Death.” I was to be the guest on the third week. At that time, I was in a joyful place anticipating the marriage of my son Christopher and his beloved Annie. Though I teach and coach people through grief, this was a step deeper then I had ever gone. Make FRIENDS with death? Really? And then I re-read John O’Donohue’s beautiful book “Anam Cara”, which translates as friend of the soul, where he proposes that death is born with us–though ignored in the celebratory surroundings of birth–and walks with us through our life. I began to […] MORE

Easter Thoughts

The Easter story is one that we read all the way back to the Babylonians—the miracle of Spring, the death of the plants and the eventual resurrection of Mother Earth. It certainly triggers hope, and we can imagine how it brought joy in the early peoples as they waited to see if green would reappear. In my book “The Gifts of Grief: Finding Light in the Darkness of Loss,” I believe that the broken heart is similar to the frozen cracked earth of winter, and the gift is the greening of our hope and faith in what is to come. We are forever a hopeful species, and as the dark clouds of war and anger bring winter to our spirits, so can the gifts of love and kindness bring the spring. May each and every one of you find the joy in the story, and in your own life. I […] MORE

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The Gifts of Grief book has arrived!

I am holding in my hand the beautifully created book from Hierophant Publishing titled “The Gifts of Grief: Finding Light in the Darkness of Loss.” It’s now available in the store on this website, and will be in all stores in April, including an ebook format. The MP3 of my voice and the amazing music of Michael Hoppe and Heart and Soul Meditations by Lance Ware is also available to lead you through the healing visualizations. There are no words for the feeling of having your life’s work going out to the people who are ready for it. The world is awash in grieving, not simply from our own losses as individuals but from the sadness that comes into our homes and electronic devices every day as we see children executed, people homeless and hungry and at war, lives washed away in tsunami’s and earthquakes and even the evidence of global […] MORE

Staying Optimistic

The times are difficult, for sure, with all that flows into our lives via television, videos, games, phones and other things I’m not even cognizant about. If we choose to, we can focus on those things that are positive in our world, such as friends, walks in the neighborhood, family that we love, and many more. It’s hard to over-ride the messages of the world to allow in the love of the Universe, but it can be done. Simply find a quiet time to sit alone where you won’t be disturbed. Take this time to breathe deeply, relax your shoulders and your body, and just begin to notice your breath going in and out. If you have a lot of thoughts chasing around inside your head, tell them you’ll get back to them later, but would appreciate it if they would take a temporary backseat. Then begin to breathe in […] MORE

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In with Breath, Out with Stress

I’m excited to have you here. My goal is to present you with useful and loving information to inform and improve your daily living, and to respond to your questions and feedback. In this blog, I’ll focus on HeartMath®, and later I’ll include my other trainings. Several years ago, I added the title of Licensed HeartMath Provider to the modalities I use with clients. The excitement of being trained in a science-based modality that uses the heart-brain and its connection to the head-brain as the source of wisdom fit in so beautifully with what I have always believed to be true. MORE