Compassion

COMPASSION Have compassion for everyone you meet, even if they don’t want it. What appears bad manners, an ill temper or cynicism is a always a sign of things no ears have heard, no eyes have seen. You do not know what wars are going on down there where the spirit meets the bone. ~ Miller Williams   This is a poem I have used over the years in my books and articles, but one that is particularly needed right now. And Miller’s daughter, Lucinda, has just put out a double album titled “Where the Spirit Meets the Bone.” Since he is one of my top five favorite writers and she one of my top five favorite musicians, an article is in order. But what more can I say that he has not said in this piece? I think the key thoughts are: even if they don’t want it and […] MORE

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St. Valentine’s Day

Today is a day where we wish everyone love, with love usually being of the romantic kind. When I see this picture, it represents love to me. The tree that supports all kinds of love and life: family, friends, earth, the animals, birds and insects on the planet, and the planet herself. To have a day that represents love in all its guises is to ask us to remember what that feels like. Love is not many things, such as judgment, criticism, separation and superiority. Love is an open heart. A great exercise for this day is to think of someone or something that is not lovable, to your mind, and just open your heart to their heart. Lay judgment aside, and simply send love, wishing for that person or place to feel your love. Breathe into it. That’s all there is to it. You don’t have to get a response, […] MORE

Making Friends with Death

In September, I was asked to be a guest on a radio show hosted by the amazing Janet Conner. Both of us are great lovers of the work of John O’Donohue. She had decided that in the month of Samhain and Halloween (October) she would have a weekly guest who would talk about “Making Friends With Death.” I was to be the guest on the third week. At that time, I was in a joyful place anticipating the marriage of my son Christopher and his beloved Annie. Though I teach and coach people through grief, this was a step deeper then I had ever gone. Make FRIENDS with death? Really? And then I re-read John O’Donohue’s beautiful book “Anam Cara”, which translates as friend of the soul, where he proposes that death is born with us–though ignored in the celebratory surroundings of birth–and walks with us through our life. I began to […] MORE

Thoughts on Loving Ourselves

  Today has been a strange synchronicity of blogs and notes and meditations that all turn to the same subject: loving ones self. In the first example, the writer agonized over the “evil little voice” that spoke to her of her imperfections and whether or not–not–anyone could possibly love her if they knew who she truly was. I am currently participating in a 21 day meditation with Deepak Chopra, and the subject was loving our self. Recently I wrote about the silencing, at least temporarily of our ego voice, and these three things came together in a great Aha! moment for me. I put this orchid photograph here because the orchid is not trying to be beautiful or desirable or right in its place because it just is. The difference? The orchid doesn’t have that ego voice in the head that tells it that it is not beautiful; not desirable; not right […] MORE